People who care about us will, oftentimes, say things to derail our weight loss efforts. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about us. It just means they aren’t in touch with their own motivations and fears.
A common fear friends will have is that if we lose weight we won’t want to be around them anymore and that we’ll abandon them. So they say things like, “You’re losing too much weight, you’re too thin, you look pale, you’re sure this is healthy for you?” Read the rest of this entry »
Weight loss is about delayed gratification. We need to appreciate that the work we’re doing today to make our lives better will reap great rewards but that it’s going to take time, which is important to remember so that we don’t get discouraged and give up our efforts when the going gets tough. Read the rest of this entry »
One of the reasons why people who have the desire to lose weight are unable to stick to a diet program is because they also have a psychological resistance to losing weight. Read the rest of this entry »
If you think God works in mysterious ways, take a look in the mirror. Can you honestly say that the things you do make a whole lot of sense? You may be the exception to the rule but, the fact is, a great many people profess love for their loved ones and yet treat them in very unloving, invalidating and emotionally abusive ways. Read the rest of this entry »
John Robbins, author of “The New Good Life: Living Better Than Ever in an Age of Less,” wrote an eye-opening Huffington Post, “Being Fat In America,” which was the final nail in the coffin of my attachment to eating animal products.
Three days ago, after reading his article, I made the commitment to adopt a healthy, low-fat, plant-strong diet. In other words — yes, folks– I have become a vegan. Not because it might be perceived by some as a progressive thing to do, which it is. Not because I don’t like the idea of eating other creatures on the planet, which is true. Read the rest of this entry »
The Law of Distraction isn’t complicated: The more distracted we are, the less effective we are with our work, our goals, our relationships and our physical well-being. The less attention we pay to details, the greater the potential for mistakes, accidents and inefficiency, all of which lead to less than optimal outcomes in our lives. Read the rest of this entry »
Negative thinking is our enemy. It dampens our enthusiasm and motivation. It contributes to indecision, inertia, procrastination and outright derailment of our goal-directed actions. It defeats us. It beats us. It creates the “bad luck” that we will later bemoan.
We are our own worst enemy when we indulge our negative thinking and tell ourselves, “It’s not going to work out…. I’m unlucky…. Something will go wrong…. Such and such will happen and I’m just going to be more miserable, so why bother?”
There are an endless number of negative messages in all shapes and sizes that discourage us from being proactive and going forth into the world. And now is as good a time as any to stop playing this losing hand, to stop giving these negative messages any power.
A major problem in this regard is that, for the most part, we’re so used to our negative thinking we aren’t even aware when we’re doing it. Consequently, we need to listen closely to the content of our thoughts. We need to hear our words as we speak them, with our negativity detector finely tuned.
When we recognize the negative thoughts and words, we need to stop them and counter them with alternative messages which are positive and optimistic, based on truth not fear. Read the rest of this entry »
When shall we stop playing games of guilt and shame to manipulate those we live with and claim to love?
When shall we let go of our resentments and stop attacking our partners for their past verbal and emotional assaults on us, real or imagined? Read the rest of this entry »
Most of us don’t get what we want in our lives because we sabotage ourselves: We procrastinate. We resist. We don’t follow through. The end result is a life of unfulfillment and disappointment. Read the rest of this entry »
Karla called me the other day and asked me to charge the electric screwdriver because she was coming up later and we were going to do some work on the horse corrals.
I had no problem with her request. The problem was finding where I had stored the screwdriver. Over the years the tools seem to have collected themselves in a variety of places. Some tools were in the kitchen cupboard, some were in the tack room, some were in the shed, and some were in the garage. Read the rest of this entry »
