Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

The Power of Affirmations to Improve our Lives and Relationships

Tuesday, October 5th, 2010

positive-affirmationsPeople use affirmations for different purposes. Some of us use them to program our mind to believe certain things, in order to attract and create the reality we desire.

For example, some of us tell ourselves, “Every day and in every way I am getting better and better.” Or: “ I love myself and attract to myself all the blessings and abundance of the universe.”

There is value in affirmations of this nature. Our subconscious mind plays a major role in the actualization of our lives. What we believe about ourselves at a subconscious level can have a significant impact on the outcome of events.

When we feel good about ourselves and have a positive attitude, our lives tend to run more smoothly, with fewer obstacles, with less chaos and drama, and with greater cooperation and support from others. Read the rest of this entry »

Forcing Change In Our Relationships

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

swan1We have the desire to help our loved ones. Seeing clearly the things they are doing that are self-destructive and self-sabotaging, that are getting in the way of their health, happiness and success, we try to enlighten them and guide them to make better choices.

Unfortunately, whether in denial or aware of what they need to do and just unwilling to do it, no commitment to change is made, no actions are undertaken. Read the rest of this entry »

When Trust Is Broken Can A Relationship Be Repaired?

Saturday, August 7th, 2010

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Oftentimes, people will act out and do hurtful things, and then later try to avoid taking full responsibility by claiming that the other person provoked them or behaved in ways that contributed to the breach. This is a mistake.

If that person truly wants to restore the trust, he or she must take full responsibility for what was done, regardless of the actions of their partner. If they are unwilling to do this, the restoration of trust is unlikely. Read the rest of this entry »

Denying Problems In Our Relationships Won’t Improve Our Chances Of Success

Friday, July 30th, 2010

relationships_2When we meet someone new, our desire for connection and companionship can be very powerful, to the point of our overlooking potential red flags and plowing forward, full steam ahead.

It’s a form of denial. Because everything feels so good at the moment, and the hope for a successful relationship is so strong, we don’t want any reality raining on our parade. We don’t want to face the possibility that the person isn’t really right for us and that we’d be better off, in the long run, not getting involved. Read the rest of this entry »

The Power of Functional Flexibility to Heal and Repair Personal Relationships

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

Healing_relationshipsWe are all functionally flexible to some degree. If we don’t have a screwdriver and we are in desperate need of one, we will look at a knife but not see a knife. We’ll see a screwdriver. Sort of.

By not fixating on the knife’s primary function, which is to cut, we hone in on its other potential functions, such as having a straight edge which can be used to tighten screws.

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How To Succeed At Destroying Relationships Without Really Trying

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

Many of us have become very successful at destroying relationships. What starts out bright and beautiful, full of joy, passion and promise, eventually becomes dark and ugly, full of animosity and negativity.

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What Can Distortion Of The Truth By The Government And The Media Teach Us About Our Personal Relationships?

Thursday, May 20th, 2010

It is a common and extremely disturbing scenario to watch on the news the twisting and distorting of the truth in order to defend a position and promote an agenda.

Rather than addressing differences in a way that might be productive, government officials and media pundits find every possible way to misinterpret a statement or action of an opponent in order to make the case that they are right and that their opponent is wrong. Read the rest of this entry »

The Damaging Nature Of Sarcasm and Ridicule in Relationships

Thursday, April 22nd, 2010

relationshipsWhen we are angry at the way a loved one has treated us, we, oftentimes, harbor a resentment long after the incident has come and gone.

Rather than forgiving and forgetting, rather than agreeing to disagree and moving past it, we tend to express our irritation and discontentment by acting out in inappropriate ways that discharge our aggressive impulses and satisfy our ego in the moment, but are disruptive to the relationship in the long run. Read the rest of this entry »