People who care about us will, oftentimes, say things to derail our weight loss efforts. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about us. It just means they aren’t in touch with their own motivations and fears.
A common fear friends will have is that if we lose weight we won’t want to be around them anymore and that we’ll abandon them. So they say things like, “You’re losing too much weight, you’re too thin, you look pale, you’re sure this is healthy for you?”
They may make similar comments not out of fear but because our efforts to lose weight and restore our health makes them uncomfortable because, deep down, they know they should be doing the same thing. So if they can get us off our weight loss program and back to eating the same crap we were eating before, they won’t feel bad about themselves for not making positive changes in their own lives.
It’s all on an unconscious level. But it’s there. It’s real. People will unconsciously throw all sorts of mind games at us to get us back to the way we were so they can feel secure in the relationship or secure in themselves.
We can’t let that happen. We must be vigilant at all times for the slings and arrows people toss at us, so we can recognize them and deflect them with positive thoughts that remind ourselves of why we’ve made the choices we’ve made.
Inner Critic vs Inner Colleague
In addition to potentially being derailed by the negativity of others, it behooves us to pay attention so as not to be derailed by our own negativity, by our own inner critic, that voice inside our head telling us we’re stupid, we’re losers, we’re not good enough, we don’t deserve to be happy, we aren’t loveable, we don’t deserve to be loved, we can’t pull this off, we are going to fail, it’s not going to work out, we’re better off giving up and sparing ourselves the pain and humiliation.
It is essential that we turn off our inner critic and replace it with our inner colleague, devoted to reminding us of all things positive, to count our blessings, to be grateful for what we have despite what we don’t have, to see the glass as half full rather than half empty, to see that every cloud has a silver lining, to look for the blessings in disguise, to remind ourselves that we are loving beings who deserve to be loved and deserve to be happy, to remind ourselves that we are good enough, that we love ourselves and choose to take care of ourselves.
We engage our inner colleague not just when negative, critical thoughts enter our mind and cloud our judgment, but every morning when we wake up and every night before going to sleep, affirming that every day and in every way we are getting better and better at this. Every day and in every way it’s becoming easier to stick to our program, Every day and in every way it’s becoming easier to make healthier choices and to avoid the mistakes we’ve made in the past.
We also spend a few minutes at the beginning and end of each day visualizing the life we want. We visualize the body we want, we visualize the health we want, we visualize the relationships we want, we visualize the success we want. We visualize with great passion and commitment, as if we already have the things we desire.
As we do these affirmations and visualizations on a daily basis we engage the power of our subconscious mind to attract positive people and circumstances into our lives and to help us manifest all the joy and abundance the universe has to offer.
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